By Mom2One

Favs about Adoption

Parenting Your Internationally Adopted Child: From Your First Hours Together Through the Teen Years by Patty Cogen
A must-have resource! It’s the book I wished I’d had when we were in the adoption process but since it talks about adoption through the teen years it’s still relevant. It’s the most balanced book I’ve read in talking about different coping mechanisms that adopted kids use. The author, who is both social worker and adoptive parent, gives great insight into adoptee feelings and behaviors, and provides lots of advice on ways to helps your adoptee work through their feelings.

The Connected Child by Karyn B. Purvis, David R. Cross, and Wendy Lyons Sunshine
While this book often address the adopted child who has experienced severe trauma, the tips and parenting advice is useful to all adopted parents. I liked the practical tips and how-tos.

Beyond Good Intentions by Cheri Register
This is an easy read and touches on 10 attitudes that plague adoptive parents.

Other Good Adoption Books

Adoption Parenting: Creating a Toolbox by Jean MacLeod and Sheena Macrae
This one covers everything from attachment to race to sleep issues. It’s a great resource to have on your shelf.

Being Adopted by David Brodzinsky
This book tells about how children feel about adoption at different ages and stages of their lives.

Becoming a Family by Lark Eshleman
This was my favorite book on attachment. He talks about the hard cases but also notes that many children will not suffer major attachment problems. Plus gives practical tips to use with your children.

Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew by Sherrie Eldridge
Written by an adoptee, this book details adoptee’s feelings and how parents can address them.

Cross-Cultural Adoption by Amy Coughlin and Caryn Abramowitz
This is a great book to give family and friends—it helps them answer questions about interracial adoption and gives both answers for young children and adults.

Adoption Is a Family Affair: What Relatives and Friends Must Know by Patricia Irwin Johnston
This is another great book to give to your family to help them understand adoption.

The English American by Alison Larkin
A novel that is based on the author’s real life experience of being raised British only to learn as an adult that her birth parents were American. The book takes you through the main character finding and meeting her birth parents, the emotions she experiences with that, and her desire to try to not hurt anyone in the process. It’s a great example of why being comfortable talking with your kids at an early age about their adoption and their birth parents is crucial.

Favs on Race and Diversity

Does Anybody Else Look Like Me? by Donna Jackson Nakazawa
Through stories about the author’s children, who are multiracial (Japanese American-caucasian), and numerous interviews with transracial adoptees, multiracial children and experts in the field, this book explores how kids at different stages of life (starting with preschool) process race and gives you ideas and sample scripts to help talk to your children about race.

Why Are All The Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria? by Beverly Daniel Tatum
Talks about who racial identity develops and why it’s important to know about racial identity with sections on black, white, and multiracial identity (multiracial includes transracial adoptees).

Dim Sum, Bagels, & Grits by Myra Alperson
An excellent book about the importance of becoming a multicultural family with ideas on how your home and life can be a reflection of your now multiracial family.

Favs about Korea (fiction and nonfiction)

To Swim Across the World by Frances Park and Ginger Park
A fictionalized version of the author’s parents’ story of growing up in occupied Korea, living through the Korean War and coming to America to attend college.

One Thousand Chestnut Trees by Mira Stout
A novel about Korea that details the lives of three generations of family. The book begins with a fourth-genernation family member searching for her ethnic identity (she’s half Korean, half American), and her return to Korea to find her roots. The author’s mother is Korean and she relied heavily on the mothers memories.

The Living Reed by Pearl S. Buck
This novel follows a family from 1886, when Korea was still independent through the Japanese occupation all the way to liberation in 1945. It’s almost 500 pages but so worth it.

A Single Square Picture by Katy Robinson
The true story of a Korean adoptees search for her birth family while living in Korea.

The Language of Blood by Jane Jeong Trenka
Another biography written by a Korean adoptee who was adopted with her biological sister.

In the Absence of Sun by Helie Lee
This book details the experience Lee’s family had helping her uncle (he mother’s oldest brother) and his family escape from North Korea. In her first book, Still Life with Rice, Lee tells her grandmother’s story from childhood in Korea through wars, the country being divided, and family members being separated. I must admit that I still haven’t made it through the first book yet. While I’m sure it’s fascinating, mistreat of a disabled sibling left me disgusted and unable to finish the book. I’ll try again someday.

Somebody’s Daughter by Marie Myung-Ok Lee
A novel about a Korean adoptee’s search for identity and birth family.

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