Blending Cultures: Too Much versus Too Little

I just read an article on AdoptiveFamilies.com that I thought was great so I had to share. It talks about ways of blending birth culture into your family and walking the line of too little versus going overboard. Here’s the link:

Certain readers who only know me online have accused our family of going overboard. But actually our lives very much resemble this article. Korean culture is a part of our daily lives. We know about and include modern Korean culture in our lives, as well as celebrate traditional Korean culture. We cook Korean food on a regular basis. J takes taekwondo and goes to Korean school. We’re all learning the language. He’s excited about visiting Korea in the near future. And he has mentors who can help him navigate what it means to be a Korean America as he grows.

But J’s life isn’t filled only with Korean culture. He’s very much American as well. He loves Chick-Fil-A, basketball, super heros, Disney movies, and spaghetti. Through homeschooling and vacations, he’s learning about other cultures as well and is currently fascinated with American Indians after a recent trip to New Mexico.

Our family has found a real balance that works for us. J loves his Koreanness and is proud of his heritage. He’s comfortable around people who look like him, as well as other people of color and Caucasians. I believe that these attitudes are a result of starting culture when he was very young. It’s always been a part of our family, and likely always will be. Of course, some things will change  and as J matures we’ll navigate the changes that come with age.

I encourage all adoptive families to make culture a part of their daily lives, and find a balance that works for them.

2 Responses to “Blending Cultures: Too Much versus Too Little”

  1. September 20, 2012 at 9:48 pm

    Thank you so much for this blog!! One of my 2 1/2 year old grandsons came home to his forever family from South Korea when he was 17 months old last May. He has brought so much joy and love to our entire family! I am fascinated with South Korea – his foster family, the country and the history, culture and present day. Praying I will be able to keep his birth country as much a part of his life as the country in which he now lives. Such a treasure and privilage for us all!

  2. March 16, 2014 at 8:45 am

    When the time is right you can go back to visit Korea with him..it’s good to keep his culture alive. I am in a mixed family (I am American, my husband is Thai, our daughter is both) living in Thailand now but trying to make my husband a visa to move to the USA. She’s 13 months old and still babbles a lot–I’ve read that language development in dual language households is slower, so I’m not too worried yet. She said the dog’s name (Blackie) very clearly, perhaps because it’s the same in either language. Best!

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