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Feb
11

Some of the Best Words Ever

Yesterday I opened my e-mail to find these words: “Dear _______ family, attached is a letter and photos from J’s birth family.” In my book those are some of the best words ever!

This is the second letter and set of photos we’ve received from the family, coming just a few days shy of the one-year anniversary of the first letter we received. This letter included more personal information, which was wonderful.

After almost a year, we’d begun to wonder if we’d receive another letter. But based on this letter, it seems the relationship is going to continue. Since J is young he doesn’t really understand the significance of this. But I know someday he will treasure the information and photos he’s receiving.

We didn’t start out thinking that we’d have a semi-open adoption. In the beginning it was really intimidating to think about. It was hard to talk about another family and another mother; it was awkward and not natural. But we began talking with J about his Korean family from the first week home. By the time he was old enough to be to really understand these conversations, they were totally natural to us.

Now that J’s beginning to process adoption and what it means, I’m so thankful we followed the approach we did. He’s completely comfortable telling me he misses his Korean mom and wondering aloud if someday he’ll live in Korea. And those statements don’t faze me or make me question his love for us. I roll with it and encourage him to tell us whatever he’s thinking.

We hope that someday in the next couple of years we’ll be able to meet J’s Korean family. We want these connections to be there because who knows what the future holds. Then as J grows he can decide what to do with the connections.


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