Archive for March, 2009

30
Mar
09

Three Years as a Family

Well, if you check this blog with any regularity, you know it’s been awhile since I’ve posted. All I can say is a lot has been going on in my head but I haven’t been sure how, or even if, I should share it at this time. But I thought I’d post today because it marks a family milestone.

Three years ago today we received the call letting us know that we’d been chosen to be the parents for the sweetest little 4-month-old boy you’ve ever seen. We call this day Family Day and celebrate it instead of the day we brought our son home from Korea. To us this is the day we officially became a family, even if that didn’t physically happen for 5.5 months.

At the time of that phone call, we had no idea all of the ways our lives would change. Of course, we knew some of the parenting part—we had been married for 12 years so most of our friends had kids already. But we really had no idea how international adoption would change us, the course of our family, our priorities, and our desires.

So many of the things we desire for our family now would never had entered our minds before March 30, 2006. Living in an area with a large Asian population, wanting to live in Korea at some point in the future, learning the Korean language, talking openly with our child about race and his Korean family. None of those things were even passing thoughts three years ago.

It’s interesting because right now we have friends who are in Korea picking up their son. Our son has become intensely interested in this—he’s full of questions about their trip and the baby. But this event has also got him asking lots of questions about our trip to get him, about Korea in general, what we shopped for while we were there. And he’s calling it “my Korea.”

When we first started our adoption process, I might have been uncomfortable with a lot of the questions he’s asking lately, but now I’m excited that he’s starting to process things and has an interest in his life up this this point. My job is to help him process things as he begins the person he was created to be. The only way to do that is by being open with him about the things that have and will shape his life.

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